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Everywhere she goes, people ask Naomi Judd, "How do you do it?" People want to know how she overcame poverty to become a superstar. How, as a single mom, she raised two successful daughters, Wynonna and Ashley. And how she beat hepatitis C, a potentially deadly disease.
"That was my motivation to write this," declares Naomi of her new book, Naomi's Breakthrough Guide: 20 Choices to Transform Your Life. "I wanted to share what I've learned. After I got sick I sought out the best medical experts I could find. I learned so much I was about to explode!"
Naomi takes complex information from world-renowned doctors, psychologists and other experts and explains it in everyday language. Organized into 20 important "life choices," the book is chock-full of her homespun insights and personal anecdotes.
"My goal is to help people understand that we all have control over our lives," she says. "But it must begin within. You can't expect a pill, a shot, a surgery or some magical bullet to save you. If you're willing to do the work, it will improve the rest of your days."
Here are some highlights.
PEACE OF MIND IS THE GOAL
"Peace of mind isn't the absence of problems; peace of mind comes from your ability to deal with them. Once, Wy was lying in my lap crying about her divorce. She said, 'Mom, am I ever going to have it all together?' She was hoping to hear a soothing, 'Of course you will, sweetheart.' Instead I responded, 'No, 'cause that would be like saying you could breathe, eat or sleep once and for all. Life is a process. Let's stick together and do the best we can. We either find a way or make a way, one day at a time.'
"There was a long pause. Wy sighed. 'Yeah, 'cause if it ain't one thing, it's your mother.' "
LIFE IS A SERIES OF MULTIPLE CHOICE QUESTIONS
"I was 22 and living off Sunset Strip in Hollywood when I was struck with an epiphany. I'd had a worthless boyfriend that I'd broken up with. In retribution, the low-life scum broke into my house one night and beat me in a jealous rage.
"As always during that time of my life, I had no money, but the sympathetic clerk at a motel felt sorry for me and my two sleepy girls and gave us a room. I was looking in the mirror on the bathroom medicine cabinet, trying to cover my black eye with makeup. There was nothing I could do to hide my swollen, busted lip. It dawned on me that my life was as messed up as that battered face staring back at me! In that moment, I promised myself, 'No more masks.' Just as my cuts and bruises would begin healing from the inside out, so could I."
DEVELOP THE EIGHT CHARACTERISTICS OF A SURVIVOR PERSONALITY
"When you're determined to survive your hardships, it's imperative to find a goal and then focus on it. It may even prolong or save your life.
"This is what I had in mind as I planned The Judds Farewell Tour. I wanted to live long enough for Wy and me to transition from being The Judds to her initiation as a solo performer. Channeling creative energies kept my mind off my aches and pains and inspired me to visualize better days to come."
YOU CAN REVERSE ANY CURSE
"Your parents raised you based on how they were raised. They probably did the best they could. Now, with awareness, you can do much better.
"I am a perfect example. Because I had witnessed my mom and dad's acrimonious divorce, I regrettably did some of the same things to Wy and Ashley when I divorced their dad. But Wynonna chose to break this negative cycle. Her pain from my parents' and my disastrous handling of our divorces caused her to consciously choose not to pass on our mistakes. She took the high road by not letting her divorce interfere with Elijah's and Grace's [her children's] perceptions of their dad."
YOU'VE GOT TO LOVE THAT PERSON IN THE MIRROR
"Behavioral scientists say you'll never let yourself have more health, happiness or success than you feel you deserve. This means right this minute you're attracting what you're feeling worthy of."
-- Story by M.B. Roberts